Four years ago, you came down the aisle to meet me with a calm, glowing, otherworldly confidence. And although I didn't know what I was getting into, I knew it was good - very good.
I was right.
I know it's a little embarrassing for me to publicly thank you for the ways you've been an excellent wife, but it's kind of biblical. Recall that Proverbs 31:31 says of a virtuous wife, "Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate."
|You and me in 2008|
Your wisdom - godliness even - was most evidenced by your willingness to be the first to change, the first to forgive, and the first to forget what we were fighting about. Your grace was contagious, and over time, I began changing too - almost involuntarily - in response to your goodness.
Thank you. You've made me a better man by being a better woman than I ever deserved.
You don't know how many times, as a single man, jaded married people warned me, "Once you start having kids, it's not about romance anymore. It's about survival." It was enough to make me think I would be better off never settling down.
Thank God I settled down with you. We still go on dates, still eye each other from across the room, and we still like each other - not just love each other - very much. Sure, it takes work; but it's work you're more than willing to do, even after having two children.
Thank you. I know it would be easier to focus all your attention on good parenting, but you put an equal focus on something just as important: a good marriage.
Anyone who knows us well knows we're not the perfect couple. But if they've known us since we got married, they also know that we're not the same as when we started. Thank God our marriage is still growing into a relationship that looks much more like those wedding vows we made four years ago.
And thank you. You deserve more of the credit for it than you know.
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